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Maintenance, damn maintenance…

January 17, 2013 by hiddinsight

Hi Maintenance,

I was thinking about you today, and I admit it wasn’t all good. I realized I’m a bit of an avoider: I’ve been avoiding YOU!

…Well, can you blame me? Half of the stuff I’m supposed to do, I’ve never once wanted to do before! To figure this out would take ownership. And ownership takes energy. And time. And energy. And…like…time. And then there’s the humiliation at knowing that I’m, like…needy.

I’m feeling guilty about my bad attitude towards you. I need to do this RIGHT. I must be intentional. Pro-active. And strategic. It’s the daily grind that makes you so monotonous. But in the long run, I know there will be a beautiful relfection of growth because you are simply worth it.

So I guess what I’m asking is…Can we be friends? I still kind of hate you. But I need you, so I’m going to have to get over that. Please don’t leave me.

Yours truly,

Toilet Bowl Cleaner Extraordinaire

If you can relate…here’s an amazing RESOURCE on how to have an Inspired Marriage.

“We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.”

[Virginia Satir]

Posted in Changling | Tagged affair, boredom, healing from affair, humor, inspiration, love, maintenance, marriage, relationships | 19 Comments

19 Responses

on January 18, 2013 at 2:07 am pouringmyartout

Ha… like you are the first woman to use these very words on me…
on January 18, 2013 at 3:18 am planted oak

it’s like pushing a stalled car. so hard to get going but once it’s rolling you can keep it going with such minimal effort. ugh. momentum and maintenance go hand in hand for me. –kris
on January 18, 2013 at 3:20 pm garden2day

Thanks for this! I needed it today!!!
on January 18, 2013 at 11:54 pm toooldtobedoingthis

I’d like to use the Characteristics of a Conscious Marriage link in my next post and would love to use your post as the gateway. Is that OK?
on January 19, 2013 at 12:46 am hiddinsight

Always Thank you!
on January 19, 2013 at 4:29 pm The Sadder But Wiser Girl

I’ve been a very, very bad blogger friend. Just read, and forgive me? Pretty please?

http://sadderbutwiser.wordpress.com/2013/01/19/the-flake-award-the-please-dont-hate-me-because-i-forgot-about-my-award-post/
on January 19, 2013 at 6:10 pm hiddinsight

How many times do you need to be asked before you get it done…
on January 19, 2013 at 6:11 pm hiddinsight

That is TRUE. Letting things slide takes a lot more effort to clean up. But if you want to eat, there are going to be dishes. The momentum is in the motivation I suppose…lol.
on January 19, 2013 at 6:12 pm pouringmyartout

Depends… I can be cooperative or stubborn… you never know what you get with me…
on January 19, 2013 at 6:26 pm hiddinsight

HA!!! Anytime…
on January 19, 2013 at 6:36 pm hiddinsight

I could never be mad at you for more than a few months.

LOL.
on January 20, 2013 at 3:09 pm Running from Hell with El

LOL. Great use of irony!
on January 21, 2013 at 9:46 pm hiddinsight

Ha! Thanks.
on January 22, 2013 at 2:00 am planted oak

we carry on!
on January 22, 2013 at 9:47 pm Rebecca Koo

Love it. So so true. Great post.
on January 23, 2013 at 4:35 am thewantonwife

Mr. Wanton here:
I have always told Mrs. Wanton she has a choice she can have me do something for her, or she can tell me how to do it But she can only pick one!
on January 23, 2013 at 8:49 am hiddinsight

HA! That’s brilliant you two. I love that.

By the way, I saw a re-post comment in my Spam folder yesterday from you guys. I don’t know how long it has been sitting there, but I’m planning to look at it today. I’m sorry if it has been a long time. I hate it when that happens.
on January 26, 2013 at 6:41 pm mistyslaws

What if I am anti-hug?
on January 27, 2013 at 6:50 am hiddinsight

Ooooooh, that’s when you get to be creative…kissing, pinching (sometimes works), and winking are all great options. In fact, you can combine all three forms of affection for bonus points (and a day off).